I say , because it’s really rare that the woman asks the man out in France. Please note that in France, you rarely meet your future date in a bar or a club… A big difference between both countries is the bar scene.In France, it’s really rare that you talk to strangers in a bar, unless it’s a very lively bar, it’s late at night and everybody is very drunk and happy.He’s been trained to behave like that by French woman, and he’s just thinking you’re playing hard to get and/or you need convincing. I’ve noticed that in an American woman’s mouth “I don’t know” often means “no” and “maybe” often means “yes”.
In the US, I’ve had some first dates going great and everything went south afterwards because the girl felt I was calling too much, pretty much harassing her. I remember a few years ago, the last time I had a French (female) roommate. One day, she was all worried and stressed and pissed because he hadn’t called/emailed/messaged in about 8 hours!
In France, if a guy calls a girl a lot, it means he cares. For her there was one possible explanation: he didn’t care about her.
However, in a dating situation, kissing on the lips, and especially French kissing, means one and only thing: you want to be in a relationship with the person.
I’m saying it again: if you kiss somebody on the lips in France, it means that you consider this person as your boyfriend or girlfriend and that you want to be exclusive and in a relationship with them (long or short term doesn’t matter here, though). On the other hand, remember that French society and French people are not as messed up as Americans are when it comes to sex.
One thing that’s not exactly related to dating, but it can be…
That fear that American people have to offend other people is totally misunderstood in France.
Yep, this is how French women are, and as a consequence, this is how French men (that have only dated French women) will behave too.
One thing that always disturbed me in the US is how it’s sometimes easy to kiss or to get kissed (I’m talking mouth kissing, or even French kissing here).
But early in the night, when people are still quite sober, it’s really rare.
As an (almost) rule of thumb, if a guy talks to you (a girl) in a bar, chances that he’s sketchy are extremely high.
I say “the country you’re in” and not “the nationality of the person you’re dating” because I believe that, at least in the beginning, you cannot assume that a local will know the dating rules in your country; on the other hand, if you are the displaced one, you may already know all too well about this little thing called “cultural differences”.