I used to go to dinner with my friends where they would say, “Okay, Kim, I’m taking your phone.” When you start getting those comments, that’s one of the signals that you need to stop.Maybe when you write a whole book about it and realize you’ve gone too far.
Introspection makes people really secure and confident because you get to know yourself. And what ones have you been turned off by, possibly as a result of writing this book? I think that Facebook has become more of a medium for self-promotion. And I personally am just so tired of seeing people’s inspirational quotes. I like that you kind of follow a specific number of people. I’m not sure how long of a shelf-life it has based on the way I see people using it.
I also think that Twitter is a great app because it’s very informational. It actually can enrich you intellectually if you follow the right people. What about the way people use Snap Chat makes you think it doesn’t have a very long shelf life?
There’s been an emerging body of research that shows that when you stop having offscreen interaction, you lose empathy.
You lose the ability to have genuine reactions to real problems and real things.
I started having real conversations with people over the phone, and it made me closer to my friends.
I started to self reflect and have introspection, which I think is one of the things we’ve lost.
When you’re on your phone thousands of times a day and goes to zero, it’s an out of this world experience. But then after a couple of days of this anxious feeling, I started calming down a little bit.
I saw things on my street that had probably been there for years but I had never seen before because my head had always been down in my phone.
[Laughs] So do you think technology often negatively affects relationships?
Yeah, I think a lot of relationships have been ruined by one person’s addiction to social media, whether that addiction leads to a connection with a past love or crush—and that can be detrimental—or sometimes it simply means that you get home at night to spend time with your significant other and you have nothing to talk about because you’ve spoken about everything all day through social media or you’ve looked through each other’s social media feeds.
Now we text people, we Instagram, we Vine, we Tinder just to feel that again.