Now what this means is a Christian woman won’t just look for a man who has a cross tattooed on his shoulder, but a man who is ready to die daily in the sacrificial calling of leading a home.
Love as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her.
For 33 years, he served as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota.
What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? Values have to do with what you consider to be important and unimportant. Do you both value hard work, financial independence, family, faith, charity, friends, exercise, a healthy lifestyle, vacations, having fun, honesty, integrity, and the relationship? It forms a foundation upon which to build your life. Preferences – These are personal likes and dislikes. Are you wanting to travel or do you prefer to stay home? ” (NIV) It is clear that Christians need to be equally yoked, but not only in their faith. These can be related to values but typically these have to do with daily lifestyle choices. These are just some of the preferences that need to be addressed. What they will want is not just a marriage that is minimally Christian, but a Christian marriage.And a Christian marriage is described in Ephesians five like this.A podcast listener named Nathan writes in to ask: “Is online Christian dating a good way to meet a future spouse if you don’t meet anyone through your church family?
” I say that the biblical issue here is not how you meet, but whom you marry. Let’s just get this clear and then I will circle around to the other.
Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church.
And husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her.
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. So biblically the bottom line for the follower of Christ is: Will you marry only a believer.
So a Christian is not free to marry outside the Lord. And what saddens me, Tony, is how many believers get so entangled emotionally with unbelievers that they either throw away their convictions or they stand on their head to see the other person as a believer when he is not. A mature believer will want his or her spouse not just to profess some kind of creed or be willing to go to church.
And they can be asked, you know, on the internet before you even meet the kind of things that really reveal what people are committed to. I am fine with meeting someone online and learning as much as possible about them. The great question is: Are you mature enough to discern a worthy spouse?