If, for example, his ex-wife is bitter about the divorce, it’s good to know that going into your relationship, because it will likely affect her feelings about you (if she knows about you) and (worst-case) how she treats her ex-husband and the kids.Or if really bitter about the divorce, his unresolved feelings about the divorce might affect your relationship.Sometimes there are amicable divorces; sometimes there are epic divorces that last years and years with lots of “collateral damage.” But if you’re dating recreationally and not considering him as a long-term partner, then these questions might not matter as much, since you’re not concerned with long-term compatibility.
But knowing if they still communicate, and why, will help you manage your own expectations about your relationship with him.When it comes to determining how much time is the “right amount of time” for someone to wait before they start dating after a separation or divorce, my advice is that if they ultimately want a happy, healthy relationship…Knowing whether your partner still shares property with his ex, or whether he needs to pay alimony, will help manage your expectations when it comes to his financial obligations.He may need to communicate with his ex because even if the divorce is final, they might have other things to work out like childcare, or questions and issues about the property they co-owned.You probably have a million questions on your mind. With that said, if you meet someone you’re really attracted to, but the ink on his divorce papers hasn’t yet had time to dry, you are going to need to approach some things differently if you want to minimize the risk of getting your heart broken.
” It’s totally normal to feel like you want to step on the brakes and proceed with caution.
If he has kids, then you want to know what the arrangement is, so you can know what to expect when it comes to him providing childcare, and communication with the mother of his children.
Typically, when a divorce is final, it means that both parties have reached an agreement on custody and how to split up their mutual assets such as the house, investments, the pets, etc.
For example, if a fulfilling relationship, to you, means that your partner is both attentive and present with you when you’re on a date.
But if you find when you’re actually on a date, your partner is clearly preoccupied with his recent divorce, then he might not be emotionally available right now.
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