It wasn’t a question of whether he and his wife were going to divorce – the relationship was toxic, the lawyers were in place, it was definitely over. They were well-matched and perfectly adorable together. You can listen to all these stories, but they won’t inform YOUR situation.
But, most likely, because he’s still emotionally reeling from the death of his relationship. It’s not that he didn’t care about her; it’s that he wasn’t ready for another commitment so soon after declaring his bachelorhood….
I wrote about this extensively here, in a post called “When Do You Begin Dating Again After a Long-Term Relationship or Marriage? And you’re certainly not ready to love with reckless abandon. So, Sara, like most situations that stymie my readers, the answer isn’t as obvious as “dump him” or “go for it.” It depends on the man, the nature of his divorce, his emotional availability, and his ability to get in touch with himself.
Whether you stay or leave, you just have to find the guts to go with the decision you think is the right one.
There is such a difference between what is available for men and woman.
Their desire to be with men 15-20 years their senior means they are looking for someone to take care of them both financially and personally.
Be cautious men, these women are looking for you to do it all over again and that means house and children.
Here is what I have found: For single men the options are plentiful. It seems that the breakdown of available women fall into the following categories: 1.
We have all heard about how easy it is for a man to start dating in his fifties and how there are plenty of women to choose from. Early 30’s and never been married – these women must have “daddy issues”.
Since then he started to see a therapist (before he said he wouldn’t ever see one) to help him change for better. There is nothing that bothers me more than married people who go on dating sites. Some lie and say they are single, and then they begin a relationship with an innocent person who ends up falling in love and then finding out the person is married.
So, the innocent one either walks away broken hearted, or they compromise and continue to see the person because they’re already too emotionally attached and invested. You didn’t join an online dating site because you were bored. You needed validation that you were desirable, that someone would want to love you the way you deserve to be loved. Because if you go into a candy store, chances are you will come out of it with a purchase, right? First of all, I am going to assume he isn’t married, but I don’t know that for sure. You are asking me if you should stay with your husband or be with this new guy, and my answer is, your decision shouldn’t be based on whether or not you have a boyfriend. You either want your marriage to work or you don’t think it can. This boyfriend guy shouldn’t be in the mix, only in the sense that he gave you a taste of the notion that it is possible to meet someone else at this stage in your life.
He’s doing what’s practical not to scare people off.