David Carter A blood stained cross, an empty tomb For by His love He met my doom.
The responsibility does not only lay with one person to make the wise choice.As in my circumstances as a survivor, I never would have known or imagined my soon to be ex spouse was capable of doing what was done, or the degree of sexually deviancy that surfaced only many years into the marriage.I see alot of Christians openly date, even in church -while going through a divorce. Is the church responsible to hold accountable these actions if they know, especially if someone is serving at church or on staff?Jesse If by "date" you mean going out with friends, with no intention of getting serious, maybe there is no issue, other than avoiding the appearance of evil.Sure, I can walk away, yet who holds leadership accountable? David Carter, you commented that confrontation must always be done with caution.
Can you further explain what this means..or why is the need for caution?
) It is affirming to hear that others do read Scripture the same way.
However, It has been disheartening, and even spiritually challenging to know that, in the particular situation I am referring to, the leadership of the CMA church has not only been told that the person is not divorced, continues to allow the person/s to serve and is ignoring the obvious dating, in church.
That's why I asked- perhaps it is a CMA position that dating during a divorce is ok.
Or perhaps this particular staff is choosing to turn a blind eye.
Furthermore, it is disingenious for the other party to be dating someone who regards their current legal bond so lightly. For an in depth and extremely conservative study on this subject see the book "The Divorce Myth", by J. Perhaps in an effort to avoid legalism, we have lost perspective on the fact that God does know best, and His ways are always best. Maybe a life of celibacy for the divorcee who simply stays close to Jesus is much better for them than the possibility of making the same mistakes over again in a subsequent marriage.) Perhaps we have come to the place in American Christianity where we think that because the scriptures state clearly that God is love, we don't have to reckon with His other attributes, such as wisdom, justice, etc. As to responsibilities of the church in regards to confrontation and accountability, the scriptures are clear (1 Tim. Confrontation must always be done with a view toward restoration of the repentant. Seek wisdom from your church leadership, if possible. The answer might be that in the case of "dating" there is no evidence of sexual misconduct and therefore no clear point of sin to confront.