Their wives may be very emotional, providing a sense of aliveness to the relationship and compensating for the numbness many codependent men feel inside.
In the beginning, a man can feel powerful, helping a needy girlfriend or wife and giving her attention or gifts.
Men become dependent on their wives’ approval, and then feel trapped by their manipulation, demands, or expectations.They’re unable to set boundaries and fear emotional retaliation and/or rejection, including withholding of sex.Peter Pearson, founder of The Couples Institute, to see what codependency even is, and how to deal with it. Typically, a codependent partner avoids conflict entirely.If they find themselves in an argument, they'll surrender.If they voice an opinion and their partner disagrees, they'll clam up immediately.
"Their distaste for conflict is so great that they resist or avoid speaking about what's important to them in order to maintain harmony in a relationship," says Dr. So, it's not really "harmony" so much as it is a false sense of a safe relationship."They surrender too much of what they want, think, or feel for the sake of staying in the relationship." Think Jennifer Goodwin's character in .A codependent person's identity takes a backseat to the well-being of a relationship.Despite the prevalence of codependent women, I see many codependent men in my private practice.There’s a dance that codependent couples do, and it takes two who know the steps.A codependent person usually tries to find an opposite extreme to compensate for their own behaviors: someone, loud, outgoing, opinionated, and emotional. Just because you can see some similarities doesn't mean your significant other is codependent. Pearson, "sooner or later you begin to find your partner is kind of boring because in a good relationship, people have a lot of differences and they can respect those differences." Codependent people have thin skin, but encourage them to be assertive and ask for their viewpoints. "That's literally what it means to have a partner; be supportive of that kind of self-expression."Follow Frank on Twitter.