"It's not until later in life that they realize what an opportunity it is to be surrounded by such a big pool of qualified suitors." When you're surrounded by fewer potential partners, it's important to be more aware of the opportunities you do have to meet men."A lot of women in their 20s tend to wait for the guy to make the first move," says Della Casa.
That means the majority of ladies are out finding "the one" long after the frat party is over.and Alisa Ruby Bash, a marriage and family therapist, about the best ways to meet men in your post-college years. "Most women tend not to find their future husbands in college anymore," explains Bash."When people live in such close quarters and have to face the consequences of their actions, men are held accountable with the women in their lives." When you aren't in the same social circle as a sexual partner or you have a one-night stand with somebody you don't know well, you make yourself more vulnerable.Even if you date somebody in your office or your apartment complex, the repercussions of a no-strings attached physical relationship can be more damaging to your ego and professional life than your college flings were.When I say who, I don’t mean only a significant other- I mean a group of supportive and like-minded friends who care enough to stick it out through the highs and lows of your self-discovery.
It is such an awkward and inconsistent time in people’s lives that many seek out stability through their social lives. What I mean by this is, whether he is in frat, in a band, or on a team, if your boyfriend “belongs” to something, the privileges of belonging are suddenly extended to you and your friends.These are: middle school girl seeking first boyfriend; high school girl seeking first “serious” boyfriend and/or a prom date; college girl seeking potential husband; and newly graduated girl pondering the idea of calling herself a woman.Unlike my article series on Tinder where I berated my fellow females for letting their brain cells jump off of a cliff while deserting their still-present and Tindering bodies- this article series will be geared towards informing the boys.Spending less time with your friends and leaving the competitive world of college for entry-level jobs and monotonous desk work can put a damper on your personal ambition, but you shouldn't let it, especially if you're in the market for love."Men are attracted to women who are confident and happy," Della Casa says. "Having career goals, hobbies, and passions are always attractive to the opposite sex," she says."Ask everybody to bring one or two people that you haven't met." It's all about networking – and don't be afraid to meet new women or men who are better suited as friends.