On some sites, the person knowsthat you received his or her e-mail and read it.On some sites, the person also knows that you deleted it.“You are committing yourself to a second reply,” Schwalbe cautions. Or should you just take a moment and answer the thing properly right now? Ironically, it's the hugs, not the kisses that make this one inappropriate.
Notice that the word is common, not polite or considerate.
You need to know how to dish out rejection in an appropriate way.
While it doesn't particularly bother Pachter, the consensus is that you can probably do better. Everyone agrees that what Schwalbe calls the “whole 'thanks' family” really makes sense only when you're genuinely thanking someone for an actual thing they did for you.
That said, the exclamation-point version is Licht's go-to for internal communication when she's expressing actual gratitude. Schwalbe, too, considers himself a general “fan of exclamation points,” within reason. Schwalbe has had enough of my questions about the “thanks” family.
Say that you’re in the middle of an Instant Messaging (IM) exchange, and you realize that the prospect just isn’t a match. And for the record, the inappropriate actions are Regarding those first two actions, your prospect would probably think you had computer problems and keep trying to reach you, which isn’t what you want. And regarding the porno action, sending pornographic material can be construed as harassment and get you into a heap of legal trouble.
The Internet-appropriate action to take is to simply say“I need to stop now. If it’s an argument telling you why you are a match, simply sign off. Regarding the third action, no stranger is worth any emotional investment on your part, especially negative ones. If someone has really incensed you, avoid further trouble even though you’re anonymous. They are unlikely to go postal on you, but some people are sufficiently sick to do some serious libel and slander."Nice," he says, noting that it's "a little formal".Think of it as the equivalent to the "warm" family, he advises.“Like you know I'm in danger and I don't.” A minefield of power dynamics, this one is “a bit presumptuous, but fine if you are doing a favor for someone,” Schwalbe says. By Judith Silverstein, Michael Lasky The Internet is a strange place, and what seems abnormal for in-person experiences is completely common on the Internet.I’ve enjoyed chatting with you, but I don’t think we’re a match. Some people flame others by sending e-mails, warning people of a person’s supposed bad character. He is [insert issue here].”) Although you could sue them for defamation, who needs the grief?