Still, introverts, especially men, who Hartman and Cain agreed face different expectations than women, may find it difficult to ask out someone they've been messaging.
"[Introverts are] one-on-one in the email stage and on a date.
They don’t have to worry about being at a dinner party, talking to eight people, figuring out how to look charming,” she said. She maintains that online dating can work for introverts in ways offline dating doesn't.
“If you’re at home reading Tolkien, you’re not a fun person," Hartman said facetiously.
"I think people would not be honest about that kind of stuff, and they should be honest.” Hartman advises that people identify as introverted through their Myers-Briggs type, because many people are familiar with the indicator and may know a loved one who's similar.
The first is that it can be done from the comfort of one's home, alone, and doesn't involve the traditional pressures of meeting people IRL, such as going to a crowded bar. “Conversations with new people are taxing for the introvert," Hartman told .
"Those initial conversations you can do over email online.” That intimacy continues to be an advantage during the dating stage.
Talking to people in the real world until you trick someone into thinking you’re attractive and funny is not only difficult, but incredibly time-consuming.
Luckily, Tinder exists so you can trick people from the comfort of your own home.
Five results came up, one of which ended up becoming his wife.
“He shared the online profile his future wife had written, and you could see she was so charming and soulful in an introverted way," Cain said.
Mention the things you love to do, including introverted things when you're at home all day long, she said.