Over the last thirty years the birthrate for boys has far exceeded the birthrate of girls and so Chinese girls are really in demand by lonely Chinese guys.There is one shocking exception to this rule; in China women over the age of twenty-six are considered undesierable as potential brides - this exclusionary phenomenon is so prevalant in modern Chinese society that there is actually an official term for a women over the age of 26. Obviously, Oprah, Vogue, and Cosmo have a very different take on the role of women in society.The cognitive dissonance of these competing social dictates is immense, and it is one of the primary reasons that, according to the World Health Organization, somewhere around 500 Chinese women commit suicide every day.
That term is Sheng Nu and it translates as UNWANTED! Chinese girls are becoming increasingly aware of the higher status of women in the western world and they want to be a part of it.For more information on this strange phenomena check out our article: Sheng Nu - The Unwanted Women of China. This can actually help you if you are a foreign guy interested in dating a Chinese woman, because the women in China today are often operating with a different set of expectations than most Chinese men.To see if the women would go for short guys who were successful, ABCNEWS’ Lynn Sherr created extraordinary résumés for the shorter men. Sherr asked whether there’d be anything she could say that would make the shortest of the men, who was 5 feet, irresistible. And although you can feel free to substitute “older women”, “older men”, “heavier women”, or “Asian men”, I honestly feel that nobody gets a rawer deal than short guys.She told the women that the shorter men included a doctor, a best-selling author, a champion skier, a venture capitalist who’d made millions by the age of 25. One of the women replied, “Maybe the only thing you could say is that the other four are murderers.” Another backed her up, saying that had the taller men had a criminal record she might have been swayed to choose a shorter man. Honestly, ladies…You can get your own dishes from the top shelf.Another issue is that in many cases a well educated Chinese woman can make more than her husband or boyfriend and in China that apparently creates huge problems, because it makes many Chinese guys feel like failures.
This is sometimes a problem in the United States and Europe, but not to the extent that it is in China.I didn’t want to mention it for the same reason that Tom didn’t want to mention it in his profile: because it’s irrelevant to anything that makes him a good accountant, husband, or father. He’s just been confronted with a very ugly reality that has shaken his confidence in people.Yet his height defines him, since it has prevented otherwise interested women from being interested in him over the course of his entire life. Okay, I’m kidding about the last part, but only because I’m so serious about the rest of this. And even though we had good initial results, the fact remains, empirically: women don’t want short men. So, after hiring me as his dating coach, we set to work in rebranding him on We had Tom fill out my long questionnaire and submit to an hour of questions from me on the phone.You can see what a great experience it was in this CBS Early Show clip: What I haven’t yet mentioned is that Tom Pandolfo is 5’3″.If you’re a regular reader, you probably knew that I was on the CBS Early Show in July. We wrote two new profile essays that were unique, funny and confident.