A person with Asperger's may feel raw emotion, but not be able to immediately identify it or its cause.
Not only does this cause breakdown in communications in common, everyday situations, it can also be very dangerous.
As with many others with Asperger's, I feel emotion, and feel them intensely, sometimes more so than a person who did not have Asperger's. Mahari, wrote in "Difficulty Expressing Emotions Doesn't Mean We Don't Feel:" "There is often quite a stark difference in the styles used to express and communicate emotions between those with AS and neurotypicals (NT's) which is not cause to assume that aspies don't feel empathy, sadness, compassion, happy for others and so forth.
When it boils down to it, I believe the root of this assumption goes back to the difficulties that many with Asperger's have with communication. Speaking for myself, from my own experience, I often feel way too much though this is usually not very evident a lot of the time. People that get to know me come to understand this is not something that need be taken personally and that all they have to do is ask and I will answer.
(There is nothing like self-pity and a sense of injustice to bring out the worst in me!
) Finally, six hours later, after some more 'probing' on my part, he said angrily that there was nothing he could say, and he was angry at himself for letting me down. His obvious regret was more than enough to make me feel better, and I was just sad that both of us had gone through six hours of misery.
Chris seems to think that I resurrect this incident because I'm still angry about it, but he is very wrong.
I look back at it and remember it as one of those times that he ultimately let me realise how much I matter to him." Situations such as these can cause people with Asperger's to be perceived as uncaring or as lacking accountability, while the reality may be the opposite - they may be internally beating themselves up, but just don't know how to communicate it, make it right or how to comfort the other person.
An adult who gets involved with a violent, abusive, or manipulative person, is then doubly vulnerable.
In an emotional situation the delayed response/awareness may then open them up to further exploitation.
It can also be dangerous, because the energy and focus necessary to sort things out when in an emotional state can also cause someone to be injured due to a reduced awareness of the physical world around them.
In that state, a person could walk unaware into a dangerous area of town, walk out in front of a moving vehicle, or trip or fall.
Chris arrived, and I hoped for an apology and some concern for how I felt physically and emotionally, but far from it.